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404-03 Feeling Confused, Pressured or Attacked!
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Hi everyone,
Like everything else in this creation of duality and polarity, there is a thin line between others attacking you and you attacking others or yourself because when you are in denial, you will also feel that it is others that are attacking you. How you begin to separate this is for you to end your denial by expressing yourself, as part of the stress you feel is your own denials (conditional love) putting pressure on you by telling you NOT to allow expression of your feelings and intuition. You then hold yourself captive in this state of confusion by your own unlovingness and until you give acceptance (unconditional love) to express yourself, nothing will change and you will just go deeper into denial and feeling more controlled and attacked. Only by acceptance and expression do you give movement, freedom and unconditional love to yourself.
Im finding it difficult to write this piece, as there are so many layers, levels and issues involved here, yet I feel its important that the seed be planted. To understand denial you not only have to be aware of it, you need to experience and feel it for what it is when it has control of you and when it doesnt. You also need to see and feel the effect denial has on others and how others can also mirror your denials back to you.
The exercise Im going to give you here will help you in a number of ways. It will give you awareness of the look; dynamics and feel of denial in others that you feel are unloving toward you and also in yourself, and then how to move this denial and unloving light to its right place. Im going to present this exercise as if someone is trying to attack and control you, however, and this is important, if its not the other person but YOUR denials that are attacking you, (being reflected) then this exercise will NOT work until you end your denials first. If they have removed themselves from your space and you still feel pressured and attacked, then you need to look within to see where you are in denial, guilt or shame.
Now here is a simple exercise you can try the next time you feel personally confused, pressured or attacked by another. This exercise can be also adapted in a variety of ways. Simply put up your hand and ask the person a direct question. What is your INTENT? Are you attacking and trying to control me? They may humm and haw and try to change the subject, but insist and repeat the question, you will get an answer and no answer, is also an answer. Now that person has two choices. First, they can be truthful and say, yes I was trying to control and attack you, or the second, denial choice is to say, no Im not trying to control or attack you.
You now have choice and power, for the first response, you can ask further questions as to why they were trying to do that. If they are as truthful as they appear to be, (which you can also feel) they and you will see how they were trying to control you and they will honour your request and stop. They will also thank you for showing them how they were being unloving to themselves and to you and you will feel their truth. In the second choice, (denial) which is the one that theyll most likely choose, that they are not trying to control or attack you; then you can then simply say that if that is the truth, then stop and leave me be and that is the end of it. Now here is how and why this works.
If they chose the denial response, they now have another two choices, the first is to keep attacking you, which is a dead give away that they were lying and you can openly ask them again and deal with them appropriately. The second choice they have is to stop doing what they were doing because they know that if they continue, you will catch them in their lie. And now that they have lied, they cant tell the truth as that would expose their original denial and lie and as they have no acceptance for the truth (as that is not in their natural state of being) they are caught in their own DENIAL trap. They may then try to find a way around this situation by stating that they werent telling you what to do but rather asking or suggesting. You can then say, well if you were just asking or suggesting then thanks, but no thanks and if I need your advise Ill ask you. Of course theyll get pissed off and will try to use guilt, shame and all the rest of their tricks to get you to deny yourself but now using this simple awareness tool and your feelings and intuition you empower yourself with unconditional love.
If the pressure and attacks continue, you can also use and express what you are feeling and intuiting, seeing or hearing or not seeing or hearing from them and express yourself (your truth) including your UNDENIED RAGE that will also help you break their hold on you. Hey, they might call you crazy, schizoid and all the rest and will not want anything more to do with you, but that is only because they cant control you anymore as you are no longer in denial. They can only control you when you are in denial because the only thing that they have acceptance for is denial.
You may ask, so why couldnt I just tell them to stop in the first place? Well, this is the KEY. By your open and honest expression and by challenging and ASKING your direct questions, and not TELLING or trying to CONTROL them (which is the way conditional loves works) you have taken your power back. NOW, by THEIR denial response, you have the power now to not just ask, but to also TELL them to stop and where to go for that matter if they persist. You dont have to accept the unlovingness of what they are saying or doing or not saying or doing, and you dont have to justify yourself, as that is guilts way of saying that you are wrong. Guilt will be quick to say that you have to be loving, and that youre responsible for other peoples feelings. This is typical of the double standards of conditional love that says that you are responsible of the other persons feelings, yet that same person is not responsible for your feelings. Double standards, denial, guilt and shame are some of the major tools used by unloving light to attack, manipulate and control.
After this, you now will have to make another choice. That is to continue to hate and deny your intuition and feelings and yourself and continue to have friends and family members that feed off you, or you can choose to love and express yourself and have these vampires fen for themselves and feed off each other, instead of you. Now Im not saying that your friends or family are of evil essence, BUT, if they are in denial, even though they are not of evil essence, they become the doers of evil and in that there is no difference as both are evil and unloving. You dont have to try to figure them out or save them either, just speak your truth and let the chips fall where they may as they too have choices to make.
Ill share a physical example I used recently to explain what I mean. I was at a friends house and I picked up a red apple saying that this represented a denial spirit. I then selected a pear to represent a love spirit and I placed both on the table. I said that you can see and feel that they are different. I then said that when the pear (love) goes into denial it alters itself and now becomes like the unloving red denial apple. I removed the pear and replaced it with another red apple. I shuffled them around and said, now you cant tell which one was the pear as they both look and feel the same. What you see before you are two aspects of denial, one, evil by nature and the other by choice, conscious or not. When you feel unlovingness, it doesnt matter where its coming from or why, its still unloving and your response will be the same to both.
John / shenreed
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