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406-01 Denial and Relationships
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Hi everyone,
A relationship, like everything else also has a duality and polarity aspect. People are attracted to each other because they either have similar or opposite interests. While both polarities are at opposite ends of the teeter-totter, the common thread is denial. The fears and denials that both relationships have are of not being accepted, being alone, different and a host of others. And while they might not be consciously aware of these fears, that are buried in denial in the sub-conscious or are even in the unconscious.
In the case of the similar interest relationships, they seek a commonality, something to bond them to each other such as ideas and things that they share in common. If there is a sameness to their thoughts, wants and desires, then they feel they have agreement. If there is agreement, there is no conflict. If there is no conflict, there is no chance of being abandoned, alone and all the rest of their fears.
On the other end, opposites have the same fears but of course, they express it in the opposite manner. They seek out someone who they feel has the strengths, power and talents that they feel they lack. For example, if one person fears public speaking, they are attracted to someone that thrives on public appearance. While the person that thrives on being in public, fears expressing themselves in an intimate relationship and looks toward their partner to provide what they lack or rather fear. While relationships may begin with love and romance, it begins to fade as couples learn to cooperate and compromise, as each begins to be activated into their individual issues and feelings of loss of power.
In each case and with everything in between, relationships are formed to fill a hole in themselves where they feel they are not whole. While there are seemingly happy relationships, if closely examined one finds that usually one or both have given up their identity, their wants, dreams and desires to live as a projection of the ideal partners illusion of what love and life is. In other words, they feel that denial, self-sacrifice, and self-hatred is an acceptable substitute for love, if it makes another person happy.
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John Rieger/Shenreed
Healing begins in the Heart11/Jun/2003, 11:19 pm Send Email to theheartcentre Send PM to theheartcentre
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